Adultery and how to wreck love and life

Christmas Embers book review by Margaret Kazmierczak

I am uncomfortable with this subject of adultery and how to wreck love and life – why?

Because I have first-hand experience of the effects of adultery.

My childhood suffered its claws as I grew up in a one-parent family, occasionally seeing my father. The pain of separation came every time I had to say goodbye – never knowing why his visits were infrequent. Always believing that I caused the divorce. Such heartbreak ripping at my innermost being. Why did adults do such harm and get to walk away? I waited for the right time to ask why, who, how? But I only got my mother’s side – I needed to hear both stories. To this day I still don’t have the answers, however, I do know now it was not my fault!

To read my review of Chautona’s book Christmas Embers read on….

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My penny’s worth

In Chautona Havig’s book Christmas Embers adultery and how it wrecks love and life are painfully described. At times I had to put it down because of the raw emotions that leapt off the page.

What I liked

The main characters, Sean and Emily, bleed everywhere, for their friends who deal with adultery,  for Davia, Joey’s  mummy who is dying and the mess that leaves behind. Page after page I live their pain.

So what’s there to like about that you say? I liked that this difficult subject has been opened up in this story and seen in its ugly, sordid and real image-  that it destroys love and life.

Christmas Embers book review by Margaret Kazmierczak

What I didn’t like

The book has stayed with me, and writing this review has not been easy – but that’s a good thing, isn’t it? Yes and no. Yes because it shows how powerful Chautona Havig’s writing is and no because it reminded me of the utter decay that adultery inflicts on the family, friends, church and society. It does not involve only those two adults engaged in the deceit.

Christmas Embers book review by Margaret Kazmierczak

But there is hope

I would strongly recommend that Christmas Embers ought to be a must-read for those preparing for marriage. But also for those who are struggling with this reality.

Christmas Embers book review by Margaret Kazmierczak

Thank you Chautona Havig for writing this story and for having the courage to “put it out there”.

*I received this book for free. No compensation was received, and all opinions are my own.*

Chautona has a great free giveaway, see the end of this post for details.

About the Book

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Author: Chautona Havig

Genre: Contemporary Christmas

Release Date: November 25, 2016

It’s a truth universally unacknowledged that sin will hunt you down and advertise its presence the moment you try to hide it.

Emily Byrne sits in her daughter’s classroom listening to the deepest wishes of twenty kindergarteners as she sketches them. But when little Joey Cordell breaks down, weeping and insisting the only thing he wants to find is his father, she isn’t sure where her Christmas project will take her.

Davia Cordell came to Rockland for one purpose–find her son’s father before she dies. An ex-prostitute, she’s well aware that the news will cause waves, but what’s a mother to do?

As these women join forces to search for Joey’s father–a Rockland area pastor, no less– Emily learns compassion for a woman who just wants the best for her son and can’t quite imagine that Jesus wants anything to do with her.

Each day, Davia weakens until Emily isn’t confident she’ll find the boy’s father in time–if at all. Doubts form. Should she look? Is it right to risk destroying a family like this–an entire church? The weight of that responsibility crushes her as Davia wastes away before her eyes.

A mother’s love. A boy’s confidence. A family’s faith. A preacher’s failure. Is redemption even possible anymore?

Christmas Embers: a story of love, failure, and redemption.

Click here to purchase your copy!

About the Author

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Author of the Amazon bestselling Aggie and Past Forward Series, Chautona Havig lives and writes in California’s Mojave Desert. With dozens of books to her name, Chautona spends most of her time writing, but when she takes the rare break, she can be found reading, sewing, paper crafting, or sleeping and dreaming of finishing the dozens of books swirling in her overly-active imagination at any given moment.

Guest Post from Chautona Havig

Infidelity to the Tune of Adeste Fideles

“I think my husband is having an affair.”

An explanation followed. Look, I tend to be one who assumes the best of others—to a fault even. I read the “evidence” and frankly could see it going either way. It’s hard to tell across thousands of miles. While others on the message board saw red flag after red flag—and frankly, I did, too—I also saw perfectly innocent explanations for things. It’s a curse sometimes—that ability to see both sides of an issue. I cautioned against assumptions no one would want other people to make of themselves. And I prayed she was wrong.

She wasn’t.

It wasn’t the first time I’d come face to face with infidelity.

As a child, there was an extended family member. As a newlywed, one of my wedding party—then another. Then another. The excuses, the justifications. Friends and I went to confront a sister in Christ on her affair with her husband’s best friend. We foolishly asked “what happened?” regarding her marriage. Her words: “We drifted apart.”

I wanted to scream the words that battered my brain and heart. “Then row back together!

But over the years, it just grew worse. One by one, wives and husbands tossed aside vows made to a brother or sister in Christ—vows made before the Lord—in favor of what sometimes were serial affairs. Abuse. Horror.

I’ve prayed women I love through court cases, medical visits, and disclosures from children no mother should ever have to hear. I’ve prayed for men I didn’t even like because of the pain their wives inflicted each time she left them alone with the kids. He knew. He always knew.

Adultery is real. It’s ugly. And there’s absolutely a cure for it. Jesus. 100% surrender to Jesus. But as long as we rely on those little loops on the back of our boots instead of the saving, healing, strengthening power of Jesus, we’re just as vulnerable as the next person.

And that’s why I wrote Christmas Embers. I took every heartbreaking story I’d observed over the years and put in each character for a reason. Every scene, every plot point, every twist—I put them exactly how and where they are for a reason.

They’re there as a warning.

This isn’t your lighthearted Christmas novel. Some have suggested I shouldn’t have set it at Christmastime. But you know what? Over half the disclosures I’ve ever heard of happened between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day. I couldn’t get the idea of Joey’s story out of my head. And to write his story, it had to be at Christmas.

Let me say it again. While Christmas may not seem like the optimal time for a hard-hitting book like this, I had to do it. Adultery is reaching epidemic proportions in the church. There’s a solution. His name is Jesus.

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Author: Margaret Kazmierczak

For over fifty years I have laughed and cried through my life – it has been exciting, exhausting, emotional, challenging and infuriating. No one gave me a map or a ‘How to get out of stressful situations’ manual, to help me on my journey. Instead, it has been God and me, His Word and my mistakes. So let’s cut to the chase, I am a wife and mother of three almost adult children! I live in the South of England and dislike the rainy climate. Yes, it looks green but so does my face with little sunshine! With many occupations under my belt, I now spend my time writing – mainly Christian inspirational works on my blog. However, I also include book reviews and some humorous pieces too. I have one published book so far….. keep looking as there are plans afoot for more! My life is hectic; I am disorganised, and God continually sorts me out. I hope my words bring you hope, comfort and laughter as I sit here in my dining room praying for inspiration and for the cat to get off my laptop!

12 thoughts on “Adultery and how to wreck love and life”

  1. A painful subject indeed. Divorce itself is hard enough on a child. Thank you formthe giveaway opportunity. Merry Christmas!

  2. Wow, Margaret, what a powerful post of warning and hope. Jesus–our Hope–always. I’ve witnessed two Christian couples go through the valley of adultery. One couple survived and thrived. The other couple’s marriage died. It was devastating to all of us who knew them. Adultery hurts communities.
    Blessings ~ Wendy

  3. I just want to say–as I’m certain Chautona’s story brings out, that with God and the commitment one makes before Him when you made vows, adultery doesn’t HAVe to wreck one’s life, God is able to do ALL things. NOTHING is too hard for him! You CAN overcome the broken heart and distrust that it brings with commitment to work through it with God, and live a full and happy life with your spouse. The Bible says over and again, DON’T GIVE UP! Blessings!

    1. Thank you, Caryl, you are a breath of fresh air as usual and the word HOPE is what comes across in Chautona’s book and the word that I use to offer help in my review as all things are possible for God. Blessings Caryl.

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