Does your relationship between mum and daughter need healing? Then you might like to read, “It’s momplicated.” But first let’s meet the authors on my desert island couch.
This is an I love Authors Interview 34
Meet Debbie Alsdorf
Did I say two great women on the couch? Well, Debbie had to nip off for a coffee and I think she lost her way on the island trying to find the drinks trolley. Sadly her transcript that she left behind on her notepad is not translatable 🙁
I really need to learn notepad scribble. Sorry, Debbie.
& Joan Edwards Kay
Today I have two people on the couch (well sort of). What an honour. Thank you, (Debbie) and Joan, I don’t want Debbie to feel left out, for taking time out to chat with me and my readers.
Joan – Thank you, Margaret, for this opportunity to share with you all.
As Debbie is taking in the beauty of the island lets begin Joan.
Who would you like to be marooned on the island with and why?
Joan – I would like to be marooned with my husband, Steve because I would need a lot of hugs. When it comes down to it, he is my person. He is strong, smart and handy and could probably figure out how to build a hut out of coconut fronds.
I’d like to see this hut, it would look awesome made out of coconut fronds. For those of you that have not seen coconut palm fronds weaving check this out. Sounds like Steve would be invaluable, hugs and all. 🙂
Joan, you will need something to read…
What book would you crave to read (you already have the bible, so please pick another book)?
Joan – If I’m stuck on an island with only one book, I’ll take either My Utmost for His Highest or Streams in the Desert. Either one would give me something fresh and inspiring to read every day.
I have not heard of My Utmost for His Highest but having just googled it I think I will get myself a copy. So thanks for that recommendation, Joan.
Let’s see what’s next..oh yes,
You are given one wish, but there is a clause which means you can only ask to be an animal. What creature would you like to be?
Joan – Definitely a dolphin. Does that count as an animal? (They are mammals, after all.) I love dolphins. They are smart, playful and stay closely connected to each other.
Other people have chosen a dolphin so I don’t see why not. They are wonderful creatures so I think you have made a good choice there.
There must be a food question, are yes here we go..
What food would you miss the most being on a desert island?
Joan – Chocolate ice cream. When I get to heaven and don’t have to worry about health or calories, I will eat lots and lots and lots of Hagen Daz Chocolate Ice Cream. They will have that in heaven, right?
Oh, I’m sure God has an infinite selection of ice creams to wow you. There are no doubt flavours that you have never heard of before but all overwhelmingly delicious as it is heaven (thought cloud opens….. ice cream).
This is the final question, such a shame as I am enjoying our chat..
I know you like writing but do you have another passion?
Joan – My main passion is my work as a therapist. It is such an honor to be an agent of God’s healing work as he brings inner healing and restores relationships.
That must be so rewarding being Jesus’ agent and bringing His healing to those that need it. God bless you both for being open to God’s calling.
It is a pleasure to introduce you both to my readers and I am sure your book will touch many lives.
Let’s show our appreciation for (Debbie) and Joan. I hope Debbie is alright, can someone send a search party, please?
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About the Book
Book Title: It’s Momplicated
Author: Debbie Alsdorf * Joan Edwards Kay
Release date: September 4, 2018
Let’s face it: when it comes to mothers and their daughters, things can get a little . . . complicated. Momplicated, you might say.
Whether your relationship with your mom has been wonderful or stressful, redeemed or broken, close or nonexistent, it’s one of your life’s most important and defining connections. Its effects have probably followed you into adulthood.
If you have conflicting feelings toward mom—or if you wish you could get past some of the baggage that holds you back—this is your book. Combining spiritual disciplines and the best of current therapeutic practice, It’s Momplicated will help you discover the following:
Four key tools
- How your early connection with your mother may have impacted your sense of self and your other important relationships—and what you can do to break the cycle
- Why you and your mother have the relationship you have—the underlying reasons that may be contributing to strain and unease
- Tools and exercises to help you cope with some of the most common effects of a broken relationship, including anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, and trust issues
- How to be the daughter and mother God wants you to be even if your mom wasn’t who you needed her to be.
It’s never too late to love, never too late to heal, and never too late to trust God to turn the pain in your story into a redemption song. As you read It’s Momplicated, you’ll realize that while God doesn’t promise to fix all your circumstances, He does promise to uphold you and lead you to a healing place of knowing you are truly precious and loved, no matter how your past has affected you
About the Authors
For the past twenty-five years, through her speaking and writing, Debbie Alsdorf’s mission has been to help women live a better story by leading them to the heart of God’s love and the truth of his Word. Debbie is a biblical lay counselor, a Christian life coach, and the founder of Design4Living Ministries. She and her husband, Ray, have raised a blended family of four adult children. Today Debbie’s favorite role is being a grandma to ten little ones.
Joan Kay Edwards
Joan Edwards Kay is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the East Bay of San Francisco and has been an adjunct professor at Western Seminary. She received her bachelor’s degree from Vassar College and her master’s degree from Western Seminary. She is happily married with two adult daughters, four stepdaughters, and five grandchildren.
Guest Post from Debbie and Joan
Mom. Mother. Mommy.
What do those words evoke in you? Wonderful memories of home cooked meals? A longing for nurture that was never fully met? A sense of not being enough? Gratitude? Sadness and loss? Anger and resentment?
Most women have a complex reaction when asked to think about their mothers–a mix of positive and negative, gratitude and hurt, happy and sad memories. Our relationships with our mothers are unique, rich, and complicated.
Allow us to introduce ourselves. We are Debbie Alsdorf and Joan Edwards Kay, friends who have written a book together that explores the issue of moms and their profound effect on daughters. It’s Momplicated: Hope and Healing for Imperfect Daughters of Imperfect Mothers releases this September 4th, 2018. Since every woman is a daughter, this book is for every women.
Every daughter receives less-than-perfect programming from her mother. The messages may be about our value, or how to relate to others, or even about how we think about bodies. However, God is our perfect parent who wants to rewrite that imperfect programming with his truth. Many of us don’t realize the wrong messages that are deep in our souls.
A word from Debbie
I grew up with a mother who was cold, distant and unavailable. I have one sister who was in her teens when I was born and married by the time I started school, leaving me to be raised as an only child. As I grew up I wondered what was wrong with me, “Why didn’t mom want to spend time with me? Why didn’t she hug me and hold me close like other moms did? Why was nothing I did to earn her approval good enough?”
I was deeply imprinted with wounds of rejection and carried them through most of my adult life, even though I pasted on a smile, kept trying to do better, and could be the life of any gathering. On the inside, I was sad for as long as I can remember. Through working on this book, I have experienced a phenomenal inner healing, the exposing of lies long held secretly in my heart, and the ability to see the way the enemy of my soul has tried to use the “not enough” belief against me. I am beyond excited for other women to have the courage to own their own story, inviting Jesus to meet them in any points of pain and any relationships that need healing.
A word from Joan
I had a stay-at-home mom who cooked dinner every night, took us to the library and the beach, did art projects with us, and made me feel safe and happy. However, when I was nine years old, my father and then my brother both died of cancer within a year and my relationship with my mother changed. Understandably, she struggled to just hold herself together, but in my young mind, I felt abandoned by her. I didn’t have the capacity to deal with all the loss and she didn’t have the strength to help me.
This left me emotionally lost and alone. I longed for my mother to comfort me and show me how to overcome my pain. In retrospect, I wish she had shown me faith in a God who could bring hope and meaning to the devastation that had hit our family. But she was not a believer and did her best to stuff away the feelings and soldier on. I was deeply imprinted with the belief, I’m alone and can only depend on myself. As I worked on this project, the root of many of my struggles became clear to me and God has been comforting those young, lonely parts of me with his presence and his love.
What’s your story?
What is your story with your mother? What false beliefs have this important relationship imprinted on your heart, and how does God’s truth rewrite them? It is our hope that every woman, as God’s daughter, will learn the beauty of who she is and receive her own healing so she can leave a legacy of faith, hope and beauty to the generation of women that follow.
One thing we know for sure: there are no perfect moms, just women partnering with a perfect God.
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To celebrate their tour, Debbie and Joan are giving away a grand prize of an “I’m Not Like a Regular Mom” T-Shirt!!
Be sure to comment on the blog stops for nine extra entries into the giveaway! Click the link below to enter.