Dan Chrystal – chat on the couch

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Today’s guest on my island couch is Dan Chrystal author of The Lost Art of Relationship. It is such a pleasure to have you here Dan. I am looking forward to learning more about you while on my desert island.

Dan – Thank you for having me, Margaret.

Please give a warm welcome to Dan Chrystal everyone.

As you bask in the sun…

Who would you like to be marooned on the island with and why?

DAN CHRYSTAL- This one is easy. My wife! I chose to be married to her and be in relationship until “death do us part” and I am grateful for every moment I get with her! Plus, she is one of the most resourceful people I know – so survival would be a little easier. Since we already know each other and have committed to one another, we wouldn’t need to start from scratch in relationship. We have already progressed through what I call the eight levels of relationship and made it to the highest level – Someone you can call family.

Margaret – I love the way you talk about relationship, especially as it is challenged so much by today’s world. And how lovely that you would choose your wife. I can really feel your connection.

In relation to your most recent published book..

What is your favourite sentence?

DAN  CHRYSTAL “You could argue that failure is not punishment and… success is not reward. They’re just failure and success. You can choose how you respond.”

~ Sarah Lewis, The Rise: Creativity, The Gift of Failure, and the Search for Mastery.

Margaret – That is so true Dan, our response to many situations is our choice. The way we choose our response will determine our outlook. That can be applied to so many things, in all we have a choice. Success and failure do not have to be an end result but the beginning of choice. I hope I have interpreted that correctly?

You love writing..

But do you have another passion?

DAN CHRYSTAL – By far, my greatest passion is speaking and teaching. It is invigorating to share with people and see that “light” turn on inside their minds. I used to wonder if speaking and teaching was just a way to feel good from the accolades. However, several Sundays in a row I decided to walk off the platform and out the door to see how I felt and each time I was just as invigorated as before. One of my favorite reality TV shows is America’s Got Talent. When someone shares their talent with the world for the first time in this setting and are appreciated by the crowd – that moment when they realize their dream has come true is what I live for. Teaching others and helping them to realize their dreams is a moment I love to be a part of.

Margaret – Yes, it is definitely a joy to see the dreams become a reality despite the struggles many have to realize it.  Even if it is for a moment, the applause, the recognition of talent can change someone’s life. That relationship between the dreamer and the dream coming true, a God-given moment, the spark, I have witnessed that too. It is awesome. To give someone that power to be.

Here on my island..

You are given one wish, but there is a clause which means you can only ask to be an animal. What creature would you like to be?

DAN CHRYSTAL– Oooooooh, I like this question. I would choose to be an eagle. An eagle perches high so they can see all around them. They can soar on the wind without much effort, can scan prey from the heights and are what is known as APEX predator – meaning they are at the top of the food chain. Also, eagles mate for life – so I’d like my wife to turn into one as well!

Margaret – I love eagles too, and especially the reference from Isaiah that talks about eagles. “But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31. Great choice Dan.

My final question and it has to do with food!

What food would you miss the most being on a desert island?

DAN CHRYSTAL – I would most certainly miss fried chicken, baked chicken, bbq’d chicken, and pretty much any type of chicken. There is just something amazing about chicken – it is so versatile, goes with any side dish and don’t even get me started on rotisserie!

Margaret – So I take it you like chicken!!

On that note, I would like to thank Dan Chrystal for taking the time to share with us his thoughts while being on my couch.

Dan’s book is on sale here and if you would like to enter his GIVEAWAY then please find the entry details at the bottom of my blog.

This interview was brought to you by Margaret Kazmierczak author of “How to Make Victoria Sponge” And a contributor to Heart”wings” devotional.

About the Book

Margaret Kazmierczak talks to Dan Chrystal author of The Lost Art of Relationship

Title: The Lost Art of Relationship

Author: Dan Chrystal

Genre: Christian non-fiction, Christian living

Release date: October 15, 2018

Relationship is a journey of discovery—a lost art. In this generation, it has become challenging to deepen and grow personal relationships with each other. Our technology-flooded environment has left many with limited relational experience and a fear of face-to-face connection and meeting new people.

The church has done a decent job of helping people understand the need and importance of a relationship with God, but what about with each other? At the heart of every man, woman, and child is the need for connection—for relationships with people who love them for who they are.

In The Lost Art of Relationship, Dan Chrystal tackles the heart of relationship based on the time-honored instruction to “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” But what does that mean? How do we live out this odd instruction? Who is my neighbor, anyway? What makes relationships healthy, and what makes them fail? Through Dan’s personal stories and difficult life lessons, readers will come away encouraged, inspired, and motivated to love the people in their life more fully. If you desire deep and meaningful connections, now is the time to discover the lost art of relationship.

About the Author

Margaret Kazmierczak talks to Dan Chrystal author of The Lost Art of RelationshipDan Chrystal has over twenty-three years of ministry and relationship experience. He serves as a pastor for Bayside Church Granite Bay, under the dynamic leadership of founding pastor, Ray Johnston. Dan is a vibrant speaker and a dedicated life, career, and couple’s coach. He holds an MBA in executive leadership from Kaplan University (now Purdue Global University) and is currently studying law at Concord Law School. His extensive ministry background has taken him all over the country, from the east coast to the west, where he has served in varying capacities, including Lead Pastor, Administrative Pastor, Associate Pastor, Worship Leader, and Youth Pastor. An avid student of relationship, Dan is passionate about helping others to love their neighbors as themselves.

“Choose a good reputation over great riches.” (Proverbs 22:1)

Guest post from Dan Chrystal

The wilderness

For two years, I experienced what many would call a “wilderness experience.” I truly felt forgotten. Having spent twenty years in various aspects of church work, meeting and coaching hundreds of people, I still felt like I didn’t truly understand why I was put on this earth. I have moved nine times in my adult life. Everywhere I’ve lived, I had to start over—at work, home, schools for kids, and especially in relationship with others.

The last move was different. This time I was no longer looking to connect simply for the sake of connecting. There was a purpose for connection that was brewing inside me. That purpose became the driving force of my life and remains that way today. In fact, it consumes my thought life, relationships, ministry, and every aspect of what I do, think, and say.

Connecting

Connecting with others has been a part of my life wherever I have gone. This came from watching my mom over many years meet, talk to, and befriend hundreds of people. At her funeral, I had just about that many tell me “thank you” for allowing my mom to be a part of their lives—how she encouraged them and truly got to know them for who they are.

During my two-year “wilderness” period, there was a realization that over all the moves, restarts, connections, coffee appointments, coaching, lunches, and dinners with people, I was learning the essence of what I believe we are called, or actually commanded, to do by Jesus. Such a simple sentence, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” However, it is one of the most difficult things to live out every day. Let’s face it; relationships are messy. They can be downright frustrating at times, but they are a necessary part of life, and the second most important thing to God.

Continually learning the art

I am by no means an “expert” in relationship and I am and always will be a student of it. Consequently, I have watched relationships thrive, survive, and some fall away. There are so many divisions that come between us, and during those two years of struggling with my purpose, it became clear—God has designed, purposed, and prepared me to help others discover what it means to love your neighbor as yourself. I am not perfect at this. As a matter of fact, I struggle—sometimes daily. That is what sparked the writing of this book. I have found there is an art to relationship. For most, it is a lost art, one that can be rediscovered. I would love it if you would join me in discovering The Lost Art of Relationship.

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Giveaway

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Relationships -The 6 Hearts of Intimacy – spotlight

Relationships – The 6 Hearts of Intimacy is a “Love Languages” for sex in marriage. Rather than focusing on techniques, it unlocks the secret to true sexual fulfillment by revealing the unique way each spouse gives and receives love.

6 hearts of intimacy copy

Today I am going to do a spotlight on Bob and Cheryl’s book. First, though I would like to share a message that I found on youtube.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_N2gOItbV4

It also worthwhile visiting their facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/For-Better-For-Worse-For-Keeps-Ministries-113338981797 where you can find out more about their ministry.

Relationships matter

There are various books out there about intimacy in marriage, but Bob and Cheryl go deeper into the love languages behind true intimacy based on biblical foundations. Here are a few reviews to help you. And if you go to the blog posts each day from 15th till 28th September (you can find the links below under Blog Stops) there will be more helpful reviews from the contributors of this blog tour.

Here are three..

First blogger on the tour wrote – Definitely a book to check out if you are interested in revitalizing your marriage.  Biblically-based with discussion questions it would be good for a husband and wife to study together.

Second blogger – The authors do a great job of writing stories that you can relate to in each chapter.  I would have liked there to be even more biblical references, specific verses to be exact, provided to the reader.

Third blogger – Aptly timed, honest, and truly Biblical, The 6 Hearts of Intimacy really hit home in every way. What my husband & I really liked about it was the wholly Biblical approach to intimacy in marriage that didn’t just revolve around sex, but truly around intimacy as a whole.

From the web..
Jon Gauger, Moody Radio host and author, If I Could Do It All Over Again”

“The more I read the manuscript, the more I wanted to read. Authentic. Biblical. Loaded with really great stories, quotes, and illustrations, too! Sex without intimacy–no married couple deliberately chooses that path. But it’s exactly where many end up. Those couples and every other couple need to read this book.”

Leanne Woods, Community and Church Engagement Director, Safe Families for Children

“Bob and Cheryl truly care about the quality of relationships. The 6 Hearts of Intimacy is a great tool not only for married couples but also “Marriage 101” for dating and singles. I highly recommend The 6 Hearts of Intimacy because it will help people build and nurture lasting, meaningful, godly relationships.”

Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D., author of The Five Love Languages

“For many couples, sexual intimacy is fraught with frustration. Drawing heavily from Scriptural insights, Bob and Cheryl explain that “it’s all about the heart.” For those who want deeper sexual intimacy, the six “heart attitudes” point the way to mutual sexual fulfillment.”

I hope this has been helpful.

Click here to purchase your copy!

Don’t forget the Giveaway at the end of this post and please feel free to comment.  Many thanks.

This spotlight was brought to you by Margaret Kazmierczak author of “How to Make Victoria Sponge” And a contributor to Heart”wings” devotional.

About the Book

6HeartsOfIntimacy_HighRezBook Title: The 6 Hearts of Intimacy

Author: Bob & Cheryl Moeller

Genre: Christian Non-fiction

Release date: September 11, 2018

Understand the way your spouse gives and receives love for greater passion in your marriage.

The 6 Hearts of Intimacy is a “Love Languages” for sex in marriage. Rather than focusing on techniques, it unlocks the secret to true sexual fulfillment by revealing the unique way each spouse gives and receives love. Various books describe the distinct ways in which people express and accept love, but this idea has never before been specifically applied to intimacy in marriage.

Marriage experts Bob and Cheryl Moeller present six biblically based and proven ways to enhance your relationship with your spouse as they describe the Romantic Heart, the Giving Heart, the Guardian Heart, the Companion Heart, the Worshiping Heart, and the Ecstatic Heart. They also expose the “counterfeit hearts” that are present in many people’s marriages, leaving their sexual relationship self-focused and empty.

Many couples spend a lifetime attempting to express their love yet fail to achieve true intimacy. Sensitively written with practical advice and humor, The 6 Hearts of Intimacy shows husbands and wives how to successfully resolve conflicts in their relationship and how to care daily for their spouse’s unique heart of sexual love.

About the Author

Moellers2Bob and Cheryl Moeller are the cofounders of For Better, For Worse, For Keeps Ministries, which is dedicated to healing hearts and restoring marriages, especially in under-served communities.

Each is the author or coauthor of a number of books. Bob is also the author of numerous articles. The president of For Better, For Worse, For Keeps, Bob is a conference speaker, seminar presenter, and international guest preacher and teacher. He also hosts the television program, Marriage: For Better, For Worse, which airs on the Total Living Network and was awarded Best Television Teaching Show by the National Religious Broadcasters.

Cheryl serves as the ministry’s Director of Marketing, Social Media Coordinator, and Director of Prayer Ministry and is a speaker and literary agent. Bob and Cheryl have been married for almost 40 years and have six children and four grandchildren.

Guest Post from Bob and Cheryl

You have God’s permission to enjoy sex within your marriage. He invented sex; He thought it up to begin with. You can learn to enjoy it and, husbands, you can develop a thrilling, happy marriage with ‘the wife of your youth.’

If your marriage has been a civil-war battlefield or a dreary wasteland, instead of a lovers’ trysting place, all that can change. You see, God has a perfect plan for marriage, which we may choose to step into at any time, and the mistakes of the past can be dealt with and left behind.

Indeed, the Ecstatic Heart finds its fulfillment in the intoxicating experience of joyful physical intimacy with your spouse that God Himself ordained, created, and blessed. The Ecstatic Heart celebrates married physical intimacy as a gift from God.

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Giveaway

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