Healing – two great women chat on the couch

Does your relationship between mum and daughter need healing? Then you might like to read, “It’s momplicated.” But first let’s meet the authors on my desert island couch.

I love Authors Interview Margaret Kazmierczak talks with Debbie Alsdorf & Joan Edwards Kay

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Meet Debbie Alsdorf

I love Authors Interview Margaret Kazmierczak talks with Debbie Alsdorf & Joan Edwards Kay

Did I say two great women on the couch? Well, Debbie had to nip off for a coffee and I think she lost her way on the island trying to find the drinks trolley. Sadly her transcript that she left behind on her notepad is not translatable 🙁

I really need to learn notepad scribble. Sorry, Debbie.

& Joan Edwards Kay

I love Authors Interview Margaret Kazmierczak talks with Debbie Alsdorf & Joan Edwards Kay

Today I have two people on the couch (well sort of). What an honour. Thank you, (Debbie) and Joan, I don’t want Debbie to feel left out, for taking time out to chat with me and my readers.

Joan – Thank you, Margaret, for this opportunity to share with you all.

As Debbie is taking in the beauty of the island lets begin Joan.

Who would you like to be marooned on the island with and why?

Joan – I would like to be marooned with my husband, Steve because I would need a lot of hugs.  When it comes down to it, he is my person.  He is strong, smart and handy and could probably figure out how to build a hut out of coconut fronds.

I’d like to see this hut, it would look awesome made out of coconut fronds. For those of you that have not seen coconut palm fronds weaving check this out. Sounds like Steve would be invaluable, hugs and all. 🙂

Joan, you will need something to read…

What book would you crave to read (you already have the bible, so please pick another book)?

Joan – If I’m stuck on an island with only one book, I’ll take either My Utmost for His Highest or Streams in the Desert.  Either one would give me something fresh and inspiring to read every day.

I have not heard of My Utmost for His Highest but having just googled it I think I will get myself a copy. So thanks for that recommendation, Joan.

Let’s see what’s next..oh yes,

You are given one wish, but there is a clause which means you can only ask to be an animal. What creature would you like to be?

Joan – Definitely a dolphin.  Does that count as an animal?  (They are mammals, after all.)  I love dolphins. They are smart, playful and stay closely connected to each other.

Other people have chosen a dolphin so I don’t see why not. They are wonderful creatures so I think you have made a good choice there.

There must be a food question, are yes here we go..

What food would you miss the most being on a desert island?

Joan – Chocolate ice cream.  When I get to heaven and don’t have to worry about health or calories, I will eat lots and lots and lots of Hagen Daz Chocolate Ice Cream.  They will have that in heaven, right?

Oh, I’m sure God has an infinite selection of ice creams to wow you. There are no doubt flavours that you have never heard of before but all overwhelmingly delicious as it is heaven (thought cloud opens….. ice cream).

This is the final question, such a shame as I am enjoying our chat..

I know you like writing but do you have another passion?

Joan – My main passion is my work as a therapist.  It is such an honor to be an agent of God’s healing work as he brings inner healing and restores relationships.

That must be so rewarding being Jesus’ agent and bringing His healing to those that need it. God bless you both for being open to God’s calling.

It is a pleasure to introduce you both to my readers and I am sure your book will touch many lives.

Let’s show our appreciation for (Debbie) and Joan. I hope Debbie is alright, can someone send a search party, please?

Don’t forget their Giveaway and to comment on my post. Many thanks.

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This interview was brought to you today by Margaret Kazmierczak author of “How to Make Victoria Sponge” And a contributor to Heart”wings” devotional.

About the Book

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Book Title: It’s Momplicated

Author: Debbie Alsdorf * Joan Edwards Kay

Genre: Non-fiction

Release date: September 4, 2018

Let’s face it: when it comes to mothers and their daughters, things can get a little . . . complicated. Momplicated, you might say.

Whether your relationship with your mom has been wonderful or stressful, redeemed or broken, close or nonexistent, it’s one of your life’s most important and defining connections. Its effects have probably followed you into adulthood.

If you have conflicting feelings toward mom—or if you wish you could get past some of the baggage that holds you back—this is your book. Combining spiritual disciplines and the best of current therapeutic practice, It’s Momplicated will help you discover the following:

Four key tools
  • How your early connection with your mother may have impacted your sense of self and your other important relationships—and what you can do to break the cycle
  • Why you and your mother have the relationship you have—the underlying reasons that may be contributing to strain and unease
  • Tools and exercises to help you cope with some of the most common effects of a broken relationship, including anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, and trust issues
  • How to be the daughter and mother God wants you to be even if your mom wasn’t who you needed her to be.

It’s never too late to love, never too late to heal, and never too late to trust God to turn the pain in your story into a redemption song. As you read It’s Momplicated, you’ll realize that while God doesn’t promise to fix all your circumstances, He does promise to uphold you and lead you to a healing place of knowing you are truly precious and loved, no matter how your past has affected you

About the Authors

Debbie Alsdorf

pic_LG_Alsdorf_DebbieFor the past twenty-five years, through her speaking and writing, Debbie Alsdorf’s mission has been to help women live a better story by leading them to the heart of God’s love and the truth of his Word. Debbie is a biblical lay counselor, a Christian life coach, and the founder of Design4Living Ministries. She and her husband, Ray, have raised a blended family of four adult children. Today Debbie’s favorite role is being a grandma to ten little ones.

Joan Kay Edwards

pic_LG_Kay_JoanyJoan Edwards Kay is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the East Bay of San Francisco and has been an adjunct professor at Western Seminary. She received her bachelor’s degree from Vassar College and her master’s degree from Western Seminary. She is happily married with two adult daughters, four stepdaughters, and five grandchildren.

Guest Post from Debbie and Joan

Mom. Mother. Mommy.

What do those words evoke in you? Wonderful memories of home cooked meals? A longing for nurture that was never fully met? A sense of not being enough? Gratitude? Sadness and loss? Anger and resentment?

Most women have a complex reaction when asked to think about their mothers–a mix of positive and negative, gratitude and hurt, happy and sad memories. Our relationships with our mothers are unique, rich, and complicated.

Introductions

Allow us to introduce ourselves. We are Debbie Alsdorf and Joan Edwards Kay, friends who have written a book together that explores the issue of moms and their profound effect on daughters. It’s Momplicated: Hope and Healing for Imperfect Daughters of Imperfect Mothers releases this September 4th, 2018. Since every woman is a daughter, this book is for every women.

Every daughter receives less-than-perfect programming from her mother. The messages may be about our value, or how to relate to others, or even about how we think about bodies. However, God is our perfect parent who wants to rewrite that imperfect programming with his truth. Many of us don’t realize the wrong messages that are deep in our souls.

A word from Debbie

I grew up with a mother who was cold, distant and unavailable. I have one sister who was in her teens when I was born and married by the time I started school, leaving me to be raised as an only child. As I grew up I wondered what was wrong with me, “Why didn’t mom want to spend time with me? Why didn’t she hug me and hold me close like other moms did? Why was nothing I did to earn her approval good enough?”

I was deeply imprinted with wounds of rejection and carried them through most of my adult life, even though I pasted on a smile, kept trying to do better, and could be the life of any gathering. On the inside, I was sad for as long as I can remember. Through working on this book, I have experienced a phenomenal inner healing, the exposing of lies long held secretly in my heart, and the ability to see the way the enemy of my soul has tried to use the “not enough” belief against me. I am beyond excited for other women to have the courage to own their own story, inviting Jesus to meet them in any points of pain and any relationships that need healing.

A word from Joan

I  had a stay-at-home mom who cooked dinner every night, took us to the library and the beach, did art projects with us, and made me feel safe and happy. However, when I was nine years old, my father and then my brother both died of cancer within a year and my relationship with my mother changed. Understandably, she struggled to just hold herself together, but in my young mind, I felt abandoned by her. I didn’t have the capacity to deal with all the loss and she didn’t have the strength to help me.

This left me emotionally lost and alone. I longed for my mother to comfort me and show me how to overcome my pain. In retrospect, I wish she had shown me faith in a God who could bring hope and meaning to the devastation that had hit our family. But she was not a believer and did her best to stuff away the feelings and soldier on. I was deeply imprinted with the belief, I’m alone and can only depend on myself. As I worked on this project, the root of many of my struggles became clear to me and God has been comforting those young, lonely parts of me with his presence and his love.

What’s your story?

What is your story with your mother? What false beliefs have this important relationship imprinted on your heart, and how does God’s truth rewrite them? It is our hope that every woman, as God’s daughter, will learn the beauty of who she is and receive her own healing so she can leave a legacy of faith, hope and beauty to the generation of women that follow.

One thing we know for sure: there are no perfect moms, just women partnering with a perfect God.

Blog Stops

A Baker’s Perspective, September 8

Texas Book-aholic, September 8

Carpe Diem, September 9

Lighthouse Academy, September 10

Luv’N Lambert Life, September 10

Life Faith & Health, September 11

Real World Bible Study, September 12

Truth and Grace Homeschool Academy, September 13

Multifarious, September 14

Reading is my Superpower, September 14 (Interview)

Ashley’s Bookshelf, September 15

proud to be an autism mom, September 16

Bigreadersite, September 16

Bibliophile Reviews, September 17

All-of-a-kind Mom, September 18

For the Love of Books, September 19

Janices book reviews, September 19

Reader’s Cozy Corner, September 20

margaret kazmierczak, September 20 (Interview)

Living Life Free In Christ, September 21

Debbie’s Dusty Deliberations, September 21

Giveaway

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I love Authors Interview 8 this is Marji Laine

I love Authors Interview 8

Marji Laine

This is Marji Laine

Welcome to I love Authors Interview 8 in this interview we meet Marji Laine, author of Ain’t Misbehaving which is currently on tour with Celebrate Lit  – Let’s all give Marji a warm greeting.

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Hello, Marji. It’s a pleasure to have you sitting on my couch today.

Marji – Well thank you for having me, Margaret.

I’m so glad you are doing a blog tour with Celebrate Lit as it gives me an opportunity to get to know you better.

Let’s do something different and imagine that we are on a desert island. So sit back and put your feet into the warm sea. Are you ready?

Marji – This should be fun Margaret, I am ready when you are!

Good, then let’s get started.

My first question is..

What luxury would you like to have washed up on the beach?

Marji – Oh, that’s easy! My recliner! I have an office in my home, but I’m in my recliner working almost as much as I am at my desk. In fact, several years ago when I had back trouble, my doctor actually prescribed a recliner. Yea! So much better than medications. LOL!

I wish my doctor would prescribe a recliner Marji. It sounds like you have made yours part of your life. I love this idea.

 

So you have your recliner now but what will your one wish be?

You are given one wish, but there is a clause which means you can only ask to be an animal. What creature would you like to be?

Marji – An Arctic Tern because they can fly so far without resting. I’m not much for beaches – give me mountains anytime. And though I enjoy isolation every once in a while to re-energize, I like being around people! As an Arctic Tern, I’d be able to fly back to civilization and cooler weather. ?

Yes, I agree Marji, I love the mountains too, but we don’t have that many in England, more like big molehills!

 

Paper is precious on the island however..

You find a piece of paper with a pencil left behind from the previous Author who was shipwrecked here, what encouraging message would you leave for the next cast away?

Marji I’d probably write out some Scriptures like Isaiah 40:31 and Psalm 27.

Isaiah 40:31 (KJV) But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Psalm 27 (KJV) The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? etc

Isaiah 40:31 is one of my favourite scripture verses Marji. And Psalm 27 is beautiful too. Good choices there.

 

 

I am interested in your answer to this next question Marji.

You are allowed to invite another person to stay with you on the desert island, which of your characters would you choose and why?

Marji – I would choose Tally! She’s one of the minor characters, but there’s nothing minor about Tally. She has joy that doesn’t quit. Through incredibly difficult circumstances, she always finds some way to encourage if only by her exuberant smile and enthusiasm for life. She might get weary of my whining, but I would never tire of the positive vibes that Tally exudes!

What a wonderful character to choose Marji, I think we could all do with someone like Tally in our lives!

 

And now to my final question, doesn’t time fly when you are having fun!

To leave the island, you have to describe your main character in five words, can you tell me what they would be?

Marji – Composed, sincere, artistic, socially elite … Convict!

She sounds intriguing Marji. I hope the readers of my blog  will buy your book and find out more.

 

So there you have it, Marji Laine is one cool lady. I hope you have enjoyed this interview. Please be upstanding for Marji. Thank you so much for keeping me company on my couch today.

Marji has a great GIVEAWAY for one successful winner, so please click on the link at the end of my post to enter.

To buy your copy click here

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About the Book

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Title: Ain’t Misbehaving

Author: Marji Laine

Genre: Contemporary Inspirational Fiction

Release Date: January 16, 2017

True, Annalee’s crime amounted to very little, but not in terms of community service hours. Her probation officer encouraged her with a promise of an easy job in an air conditioned downtown environment. She didn’t expect her role to be little better than a janitor at an after-school day care in the worst area of town. Through laughter and a few tears, Annalee finds out that some lessons are learned the hard way, and some seep into the soul unnoticed.

Carlton Whelen hides behind the nickname of CJ so people won’t treat him like the wealthy son of the Whelen Foundation director. Working at the foundations after-school program delights him and annoys his business-oriented father. When a gorgeous prima donna is assigned to his team, he not only cringes at her mistakes, but also has to avoid the attraction that builds from the first time he sees her.

About the Author

Marji Laine

Marji Laine has completed seventeen years of homeschooling with the surreal notion that

she’ll now have time on her hands. But that’s unlikely. Her publishing company, Write Integrity Press, keeps her extremely busy. In her spare time, she teaches a high school and college Bible Study, leads a Sunday morning high school fellowship group, directs a children’s choir, and sings in her church’s adult choir.

She enjoys road trips with her family and friends, photography, scrapbooking, and participating in musical theater. Her favorite past time is game night with her family and her kids’ extended collection of friends.

Guest Post from Marji Laine

AIN’T MISBEHAVING delves into the depth of life from the perspective of a shallow, sheltered woman. Annalee Chambers has been raised to pay attention to all aspects of society, particularly the appearance of success. Being cultured and socially-educated, she’s not really prepared to work in one of the poorest sections of town. And she’s really not expecting to find such joy intertwined with such poverty.

Having my story set in my hometown has some fun aspects. I got to handpick the homes for the main characters and the locations for the after-school program. And even now when I drive past some of those places, I get all excited about the story again.

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via Wikimedia Commons

For instance, I chose a particular building downtown to be CJ’s (the hero’s) condo. It’s in One Arts Plaza. This condo was for sale when I was writing the book so I was able to download actual pictures of the place including the view from its southeast facing patio. You’ll laugh, but I don’t drive by that building without looking up to the 18th floor and half expecting to see CJ standing there.

AIN’T MISBEHAVING goes much deeper than only the setting, though. It was written a number of years ago, so many that I barely remembered the storyline. But when I started editing, I was moved to tears again and again. These characters are so real, and I would love to meet them!

I hope you’ll enjoy AIN’T MISBEHAVING and watch for Annalee and CJ to have an extra special cameo part in Book 2 of the Dallas Duets, PUTTIN’ ON THE RITZ.

Blog Stops

Jeanette’s Thoughts, January 27

Janices book reviewsJanuary 27

Remembrancy, January 28

Mary Hake, January 28

Reflections From My Bookshelves, January 29

Inklings and NotionsJanuary 29

Texas Book-aholicJanuary 30

Carpe Diem, January 31

A Baker’s Perspective, February 1

Multifarious, February 2

Daysong ReflectionsFebruary 2

Bibliophile Reviews, February 3

proud to be an autism mom, February 4

Power of Words, February 4 (spotlight)

A Greater YesFebruary 5

Reading is my Super Power, February 5 (Interview)

Debbie’s Dusty Deliberations, February 6

margaret kazmierczak, February 6 (interview)

Simple Harvest Reads, February 7 (Guest review from Mindy Houng)

BigreadersiteFebruary 8

Avid Reader Book Reviews, February 8

Kaylee’s Kind Of Writes, February 9

Pursuing StacieFebruary 9

Giveaway

 

d7be291a-45ee-421b-a5ce-12e24436c384To celebrate her tour, Marji is giving away a grand prize of Dallas chocolates, Texas snack box, and a packet of Bluebonnet seeds!!

Click below to enter. Be sure to comment on this post before you enter to claim 9 extra entries! https://promosimple.com/ps/c516