How to break toxic soul ties with Gods help

A toxic relationship

What could I tell my friend when her toxic boyfriend proposed to her after only knowing her for two months? I tried to reason with Sally, suggesting that it was too soon to talk about marriage, but I failed miserably. Sally longed to be in love, to love and be loved. Now heading for her forties, she believed she would never meet anyone. Then Terry arrived on the scene. I could see right through him, sadly Sally didn’t.


Margaret Kazmierczak reviews Breaking Toxic Soul Ties by Tom BrownBroken from childhood experiences my friend couldn’t believe the lavish exploits Terry would go to win her over. Sally besotted by the attention fell hook line and sinker into the arms of an abusive marriage.

Terry’s story of an abusive childhood given at his court hearing a year later confirmed my original hunch that he was indeed a toxic soul. Sally did not survive the marriage and Terry went to prison.

Perhaps if Sally had read Tom Brown’s book Breaking Toxic Soul Ties, maybe she would be here today.

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My Penny’s worth

Sally’s marriage failed because of the toxic soul ties. Two individuals both broken bringing unhealthy experiences into their relationship. Sally, a victim from her past and Terry, a victim, turned predator – a recipe for disaster, not marriage.

Toxic relationships are destructive

Margaret Kazmierczak reviews Breaking Toxic Soul Ties by Tom BrownTom Brown does not mince words. Toxic soul ties are destructive because it gives the devil a door into your life. If you wonder why people treat you like dirt or say mean things to you, then you need to read this book.There are solutions, but you need to be open to the truth that Tom Brown writes, primarily as they are based in the Word.

Breaking Toxic Soul Ties deals with relationships, rejection, forgiveness, mercy and grace. Tom Brown reminds the reader that “Jesus needed friends, and so He had soul ties with twelve apostles. He was very close to them. Yet even Jesus had a bad soul tie with Judas.” It was a friend who betrayed Jesus; if it could happen to the Son of God, then we have a mighty ally.

Standing on the truth

Throughout Breaking Toxic Soul Ties there are many truths to remember to challenge the bad soul ties. If I quoted them all, this review would be pages long, so I have pulled one from the pages referring to Judas. “Jesus did not let His hurt emotions change God’s plan for Him and us.” He put behind the hurt and moved on. This message comes over loud and clear throughout the book.

Putting relationships in their place

Knowing a person’s place in your life is another theme that is important and reminds us that we need to be wise in our relationships so that they are a blessing and a godly soul tie.

Did I like Breaking Toxic Soul Ties?

I wanted to read this book as I knew it would be uncomfortable reading at times but being challenged is important to our growth in God. Therefore I am glad that I read Tom Brown’s book and have many bookmarks to go back to ruminate on.

Who might benefit from this book?

If you are looking for inner healing and health, then I would recommend this book, however, be warned taking that step requires a willingness on your part to break the toxic soul ties in your life.

Thank you, Tom Brown, for writing this book and reaching out to the broken.

I would like to give this book 4 stars.

*I received this book for free. No compensation was received, and all opinions are my own.*

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About the Book

Breaking toxic

Title: Breaking Toxic Soul Ties: Healing from Unhealthy and Controlling Relationships

Author: Tom Brown

Genre: Non-fiction, relationships

Release Date: January 9, 2018

Soul Ties

Going through this world in relationship with other people inevitably creates connections in our inner being called soul ties. When these relationships are loving, supportive, and nurturing, positive soul ties are created. But if the relationships become abusive or manipulative, or cause rejection, they can create a toxic brokenness within the soul that we carry with us, even long after the relationship ends. If these toxic inner soul ties are not broken, we will experience failure, fractured relationships, and even health problems throughout life.

A way to freedom

In Breaking Toxic Soul Ties, Tom Brown describes his own story of rejection and the process of inner healing he experienced. He helps you to identify and diagnose toxic relationships as he breaks down the difference between positive and negative soul ties. He also shows why toxic soul ties develop and how they can only be broken by a process of inner healing through confession, forgiveness, and prayer. The truth is, unless your self-image is firmly rooted in the truth of your identity in Christ, you will always be susceptible to bad soul ties. Tom Brown describes the way for you to move forward in life and leave pain and brokenness behind for good!

About the Author

Tom Brown is best known for his deliverance ministry. Millions have seen him on ABC’s 20/20, as well as on MSNBC and the History Channel. He is a noted conference speaker, prolific author, and committed pastor. His award-winning Internet site,, reaches more than a million people a year. His books published by Whitaker House are Devil, Demons, and Spiritual WarfareBreaking Curses, Experiencing HealingPrayers That Get Results; and Spiritual Gifts for Spiritual Warfare. Tom is the founder and pastor of Word of Life Church in El Paso, Texas.

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Son of Promise allow forgiveness to be the way

Can Son of Promise change your idea of forgiveness?

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My Penny’s worth

Son of Promise

I have enjoyed other books by Caryl McAdoo and looked forward to Son of Promise with great anticipation. This story is well written as is expected from a seasoned Author, and there is a lovely flow to it. When God is at the centre, of the heart, all things are possible, and Caryl McAdoo portrays precisely that in this new novel.

Oh those messy moments

Indeed, this book has messy moments, and the message of love, forgiveness and new beginnings is apparent throughout. God being the merciful Father is heavily imprinted in the storyline and those of the main characters.

The story has tension and tenderness

I could feel the animosity of Cody towards his mother, which brought me more realism into the story. There is tension and tenderness that connects the characters throughout and a “will he or won’t he” ride off into the sunset even when Cody’s new life appeared hundred times better than before? Sometimes I confused Cody’s age with that of an older child, but then he had seen more than the average twelve-year-old, and I wondered if he would have been a little bit more troublesome?

I could see and feel the scene

On the whole, I enjoyed this book and read it quite quickly. I could hear the goats bleating, see the fear in their eyes when danger was near. Experience the thrill of riding for the first time, and smell the sweat from a hard days work. Caryl McAdoo is so good at these descriptions in her novels.

Son of Promise is a sweet read, and those that love stories of forgiveness and mercy may enjoy this book.

Thank you, Caryl, for writing Son of Promise.

*I received this book for free. No compensation was received, and all opinions are my own.*

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About the Book

Title: Son of Promise00 Son of Promise

Author: Caryl McAdoo

Genre: Woman’s Fiction

Son of Promise
Be it known, your sins will find you out, but God’s mercy endureth forever!
Can a wife find the grace to forgive when her husband’s withheld the truth?
Travis Buckmeyer has a secret son, and the morning’s come to tell his sweet wife. He hates breaking Emma Lee’s heart. She promised him one ten years ago but hasn’t been blessed to carry a baby to term. Every miscarriage made the telling harder, but now his clock’s run out. He’s going for his son, praying he won’t lose her.
About the Author
Lunch(1)Caryl McAdoo

Caryl McAdoo prays her story brings God glory, and a quick scroll through her novels’ rankings by Christian readers attests to the Father’s faithfulness. She loves writing almost as much as singing the new songs He gives her—look her up on YouTube to hear a few. Her high school sweetheart husband won her heart fifty-two years ago, and now they share four children and seventeen grandsugars. Ron and Caryl live in the woods south of Clarksville, seat of Red River County in far Northeast Texas, waiting expectantly for God to open the next door.

Guest Post from Caryl McAdoo

Son of Promise is a companion story to my Texas Romance Family Saga’s book ten CHIEF OF SINNERS—features Travis and Emma Lee Buckmeyer, who readers first meet in CHIEF. She’s the sister of its heroine Sandy Harris, and he is a friend of its hero Buddy Nightingale; he’s also the son of Crockett Buckmeyer (from book eight COVERING LOVE) and grandson of Patrick Henry Buckmeyer (hero of book one VOW UNBROKEN).
The secret surfaces
A standalone, it isn’t necessary for readers to know all these ancestors to enjoy SON OF PROMISE, but those who do will surely love it all the more. What I know is that this couple won a chunk of my heart. Their faith is outstanding and their love inspiring. In the ’40s, Emma Lee didn’t have the fertility options young women do today, and miscarriage after miscarriage left her hurting. That’s why he hadn’t told her.
He didn’t want to hurt her, but circumstances had changed, and time was up. She had to be told that morning he already had a son born from a one-night liaison thirteen years before because he was leaving to claim his Cody from a reform school and bring him home.
An unconditional love
The boy had never known real love, but I loved him from the first. Forced to grow up way too fast—lying, stealing, and participating in most any other rebellious act—he’s missed so much. He’s overwhelmed with Travis and Emma Lee—their home, their partnership and love for each other, and their generosity toward him.
He planned to light out from the start, but days piled on top each other, and he never pulled the trigger.
A dog’s perspective
In VOW UNBROKEN, there was an awesome canine named Blue Dog, and I went into his POV (Point Of View—got into his head) a couple of times. My Simon & Schuster editor ‘requested’ that I lose those segments, and so I did. But in this novel, I get into a canine’s head again . . . I’m hoping readers will find that fun.
From goats to strangers
In years past, I owned, managed, and milked a herd of eighty-plus dwarf goats and loved their Great Pyrenees guardians, so it was fun to include them in the story. I love how Emma Lee was able to sell her paintings for exorbitant prices, but remained so humble and unassuming. And that she and Travis opened their home (they’re so much like my husband and me) to total strangers. We’ve had so many people live with us over the years, to help them, be blessings—the hands and feet of God in the earth.
I pray my story gives God glory and that its readers will be drawn closer to Him through it. He blesses me and highly favors me daily. I can’t thank or praise Him enough!

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GRAND PRIZE : $50 Amazon Gift Card
1st Prize: Choice-of-Caryl’s Titles (print or ebook)
2nd-4th: ebook of SON OF PROMISE!!

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Ten best reasons to love Caryl McAdoo

10 best reasons

It’s official there are 10 best reasons to love Caryl McAdoo.

My interview with Caryl McAdoo

I am so excited to introduce my lovely friend Caryl McAdoo whose latest book Chief of Sinners has recently been released. Congratulation my friend on this achievement. You can read more about Caryl’s new book at the end of the interview.

What a blessing Caryl is to her friends and readers.

Welcome, Caryl (round of applause please).

My interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Romance Family Sage series

Margaret, thank you so much for inviting me to visit! I’ve just loved getting to know you over the years since e’meeting you! This is an honor, and I’m thrilled to be with you!

Let’s begin. You have written many books during your time as an author, have you visited the places in your books?

My interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Romance Family Sage seriesFor the most part, my novels are set in Texas, even to placing my original heroine of the Texas Romance Family Saga, Susannah “Sue” Baylor right on the 900 acre McAdoo Ranch in Northeast Texas where Ron and I live—the land isn’t ours, it belongs to my brother-in-love and his wife. I grew up in Dallas and one of its suburbs, Irving, and Ron’s maternal grandparents lived in the hill country. I was born in Long Beach California and have visited to San Francisco. He’s been to Alaska, but we’ve never been overseas.

Sounds like your life has been busy enough!

Tell us, have you ever been on a literary pilgrimage of a favourite book that you have read if so where you have gone?

Never. I’ve had children in my care since the age of nineteen. I spread my own four out over fourteen years so that before my youngest left the nest, we’d taken on four grandsons and reared the last fourteen years, so . . . not much opportunity for literary pilgrimages! The only place I want to go in the world is Jerusalem.

Yes, I agree, Jerusalem would be an awesome place to visit.

My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores seriesYour books are written with emotion, can you tell me what was the first book that made you cry?

Oh, I cried in book one, VOW UNBROKEN, and most every one of the historicals since. It wasn’t until book eight though that my emotions were such that I could barely read the chapters at our bi-monthly read and critique group for weeping.

Oh, those characters do tug your heartstrings, Caryl.

I like this question, if you could tell your younger writing self-anything, what would it be?

Start earlier, self-publish, and write more! I wrote for twenty years for traditional houses and VOW UNBROKEN—that Simon & Schuster’s Howard Books published (their Christian imprint)—was my tenth book to be published. It debuted in March 2014, and three years later, as a hybrid author (published traditionally and independently) here I am, having just launched CHIEF OF SINNERS, book ten in the family saga series, overall my thirtieth title published. So in twenty years, ten books released, and in the last three years, twenty more! Woo Hoo! See what God can do!

He certainly is amazing Caryl.

Now I am interested in this question as I love research. What kind of research do you do, and how long do you spend researching before beginning a book?

Oh, I just jump in and then research as I go. 22nd Century writers have it so good. I’ll be writing along in Word, come to a point where I want to write about something I don’t know about, so I click right over to Google and find out whatever tiny piece of information I need. Like how much postage cost in 1867 from Texas to California, or how long it would take to get from one place to another, or what book launched in 1885 then am able to talk just like a historian, plugging in interesting little tidbits. I have a whole document where I keep slang of the 19th century! But I do it as I go.

That is what I am like, but sometimes I get carried away!

My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores seriesI find names difficult sometimes so how did you decide on your Characters names?

Naming the characters is one of my favorite things. It’s like I had that many babies, only these don’t get me up in the middle of the night! I had a herd of eighty dwarf Nigerian goats and knew all their names. Some characters are named after people I know and some after my animals.

That makes me laugh – I wonder if anyone can tell which have been named after your animals!

My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores seriesOkay, next question, your latest book, what did you edit out of Chief of Sinners?

Plenty! We wrote it twenty-five years ago, back when we were in our forties—‘we’ being Ron and me. Back then, it was written to a more secular audience to get them to read a story in which the Lord worked miracles and sinners got saved. It still had the same theme back then, that obedience to God can overcome ruinous choices, and with the repentance of wicked ways, His faithful forgiveness and mercies never fail. But it had more secular elements that its new ‘cut’ version—mostly too much steam for my tastes as a sixty-seven-year-old Christian and Grami.

The scene is there, but we close the door earlier, allowing the couple much more privacy. And there was some moderate cursing, too—all taken out. We even took out words like heck, dang and shoot as expletives. Out of our story and our own vocabularies; didn’t allow our children or grandsugars to use them either.

I think that is what cuts it with your books Caryl. They are very visual and gritty but clean in a way that makes the scene real with action but without the actual action written down.

My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores seriesCan you tell us what was the hardest scene to write in your latest book?

That would definitely be a spoiler, but I can say when one of these people I love died and leave it there. It hurts my gut. I cry and can hardly see to type for the tears blurring my sight.

Having read your book I can see why it was hard to write it.

Last question, what was your favourite childhood book?

BLACK GOLD by Marguerite Henry about a horse. I also loved MISTY OF THE CHINCOTEAGUE by the same author. NATIONAL VELVET, MY FRIEND FLICKA.  All the horse stories! As I grew older, I think the DIARY OF ANN FRANK was a favorite and touched me very deeply.

Yes, the diary of Ann Frank was one of my favourites too, we had to read it for history in school.

My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores series


I have really enjoyed our time together Caryl. Thank you for visiting today and sharing with me and my readers some of your pearls of wisdom. It has been enjoyable learning more about you and your writing. I hope your book(s) bring many blessings to those that read them.

Thank you so much for having me again, Margaret. This was fun! I send love and hugs and blessings right across the ocean to you!

Thank you, Caryl.

There you go, friends, 10 books and 10 best reasons to begin this marvellous series if you have not already done so. Check out the series below and to read more about Caryl’s latest book, her bio and where to find and connect with her.

Chief of Sinners is a great read and you can find my book review of it here.

Here are my 10 best reasons for loving these books.

  1. They are written with real passion
  2. God the Father has an important role in all the books
  3. No sin is too big to be forgiven
  4. The characters are gritty and flawed
  5. The writing is beautiful
  6. The books are believable
  7. You grow to long for the next book
  8. The solutions to the dramas are not always easy
  9. The period, characters and language are of their day
  10. You grow to love the characters, warts and all

About the Chief of Sinners

Genre : historical Christian romance  My Interview with Caryl McAdoo author of the Texas Family Romance Stores series

ISBN-13: 978-154-8578-329  /  AISN: B074JGVY3L
ISBN 10: 154-8578-320


Series : book ten of the TEXAS ROMANCE Family Saga

Jacket Copy : Obedience can overcome ruinous choices, and with the repentance of wicked ways, God’s faithful forgiveness and mercies never fail.

Set in the afterglow of the Azusa Street Revival, this epic addition to the Texas Romance family saga sweeps through three decades of triumphs and tragedies—from the Texas Hill Country to the beaches of Normandy and beyond.

The faithful flock to his father’s revival tent where Buddy Nightingale leads praise and worship, but like King David, the young psalmist battles a generational curse, lust. On his first night back in Marble Falls, Texas—the place he heard the angels sing fifteen years prior—he beholds Sandra Harris, a beauty attending strictly for the entertainment of the Spirit-filled meeting. Love strikes both, but her Church of Christ father wants no part of any holy roller—not for his daughter.

Sometimes choices we make take us places we never intend to go, but God . . .

Excerpt : Lightning lit the dark sky, revealing a pale slender thread dipping out of an ugly boiling mass of blackness.

“Papa! Did you see that? What was it?”

“Where? What?” The truck slowed.

“Over there. Watch. It’s real white. Like God’s finger coming down out of the storm.”

He pulled the truck up on the side of the gravel road and watched the sky intently. Electricity rolled again through the black clouds.

“There.” Sandy pointed.

The truck leapt forward, and he gunned it when he shifted into second. “It’s a twister. Watch it, Sandra. Tell me which way it’s going.”

Almost constant flashes confirmed the finger had grown thick and black. “It looks like it’s coming straight at us, Papa.”

He glanced over his shoulder. “Oh my God.” He skidded to a halt, grabbed Sandy’s arm, and pulled her out of the truck. A deep rumbling like a herd of trains running side by side drowned out every other sound. The roar deepened as though the trains raced to Hades with the devil as engineer.

Reviews : 

I believe this one is my favorite, the most gripping and emotional. A few times I wanted to grab a couple of tissues. I just could not stop reading. So many twists and turns involved. Such a wonderful story that show the power of forgiveness, letting go, moving on and having second chances. The book is full of faith and inspiration. Christian Fiction cannot get better than this. Chief of Sinners is most definitely a must read. 100 stars! – Amy Campbell, reader

Caryl and Ron McAdoo’s storytelling never ceases to amaze! At over 400 pages Chief of Sinners is a tome! Dealing with tough topics, I’d not categorize this book as a classic romance, nor is it chic lit, but it rings true to life! Very believable characters, their struggles described in vivid terms, totally grab the imagination. No sanitized, saintly Christian read dealing with issues like mental illness and infidelity, but so good it took me hostage. Couldn’t put it down. If you’re looking for a sweet romance to cuddle up with, this isn’t the book for you. But if you loved the gritty, “Gone with the Wind,” you’ll love “Chief of Sinners!”

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Caryl McAdoo prays her story brings God glory, and a quick scroll through her novels’ rankings by Christian readers attests to the Father’s faithfulness. She loves writing almost as much as singing the new songs He gives her—look her up on YouTube to hear a few. Her high school sweetheart husband won her heart fifty-one years ago, and now they share four children and seventeen grandsugars. Ron and Caryl live in the woods south of Clarksville, seat of Red River County in far Northeast Texas, waiting expectantly for God to open the next door.

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The Texas Romance Family Sagas

Book #1 VOW UNBROKEN, 1832

Book #2 HEARTS STOLEN, 1839-1844

Book #3 HOPE REBORN, 1850-1851

Book #4 SINS OF THE MOTHERS, 1851-1852

Book #5 DAUGHTERS OF THE HEART, 1853-1854

Book #6 JUST KIN, 1861-1865

Book #7 AT LIBERTY TO LOVE 1865-1866

Book # 8 COVERING LOVE 1885-1886

Book #9 MIGHTY TO SAVE 1850-60s &1918-1925

Book #10 CHIEF OF SINNERS 1926-1950


If God has a poor Memory why can’t I?

I love the fact that God has a poor memory. It makes me feel close to him as I too have a memory that remembers tiny amounts from day to day.

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Margaret Kazmierczak blogs about God's memory

If a member of the family wants something done, I tell them to write it down in the diary or on a piece of paper and put it in the kitchen. Funny thing is they too have poor memories, and they forget to write things down!  The constant cry of ‘I told you about that weeks ago’ is reciprocated with ‘Did you put it in the diary?’. The silence is deafening! So I can’t be blamed for not remembering.

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